The Insanity Of Alcoholism unfortunately is when people of good intentions look forward to protecting the alcoholic from himself or herself [enabling] or make an attempt to make a prediction about what the alcoholic will do next despite having no crystal ball to do so.
Many sayings are popular with alcoholics getting rid of booze. Some are very deep others have to be taken as they are. Alcoholics Anonymous indicate as "the insanity of our disease." The statement is very literal. The statement simply implies that to understand the mind of an alcoholic such that it makes sense is only possible if you're almost incapable of thinking rationally, unable to accept or learn from mistakes, unable to make use of common sense and not even able to spot the most obvious behavioural patterns and this is why alcoholism is said to possess some aspect of insanity.
Alcoholism has up to 100 different types. A person who's drinking but functioning well enough and is yet to lose most of the things they value in life is the one being described above. They will end up losing these aspects over time because of alcohol dependence and the rule of threes indicates a grey and enduring prediction (prison, clinic, and / or passing away). Alcoholics have distorted perceptions about themselves and the world around them, and therefore, they think, act and believe on the feelings of the perceptions that have.
Their life is based on doing everything in excess or nothing at all. They don't subscribe to moderation, compromise or middle grounds in their perception of the world. They fail to see things clearly because their life is based on failure to realize how dangerous they are to themselves.
Alcoholics are considered as some of the best liars because they can use rationalisation and justification to convince themselves that a lie is indeed the truth. This occurs subconsciously.
They are oblivious of the fact that they are deceiving themselves.
To help with the lying such that it all seems well intentioned, the alcoholics start using words certain key words. "Probably" is one of the most commonly used words in this regard. It indicates the purpose that truly isn't there. An alcohol addict that says he will most likely act in certain manner will in most case not do it. When they use words like these, a way of getting around things is provided - a breaking away plan in which no limit is given and no commitment made. Possibly, would, could, maybe, should, I want to and other such phrases are very common in the vocabulary of alcoholics. These words don't make sense. The way they sound is positive but the true intention is not there. Alcoholism ruins everything from relations, communication and everything that makes up the alcoholic's life.
It is like looking down a tunnel only being able to see in one direction - this is the view that some alcoholics have. Although they may be able to work on various things on a given day, working on any one thing will require that they turn their attention away from other things.
The alcoholic will perform woefully when they are told to multitask. For the active alcoholic, no balance exists. They will focus on the one thing in their life that is currently failing and keep their focus on it, usually going overboard. Once this occurs, another aspect of their life reduces and continuously their life gets governed by "firehouse management" - every path of action depends on the most urgent issue. Though some of the victims may be able to hold up for a longer duration, their life generally begins to deteriorate from here.
Alcoholics will develop the ability to conceal information about their consumption volume and timming as the addiction deepens. They will state that they have only had three units of wine and this is accurate. The other side of this truth maybe that the glass was actually a tumbler holding 16 ounces. By indulging in such actions alcoholics do not understand that while their problem with the drinking remains hidden there also making an attempt to hide the negative effects of alcohol within their lives. Alcoholics often develop what is termed as counsellors as an external locus of control. They will start blaming other people for all their problems as time goes on. If they are not doing well with their job, it is because their boss hates them. They will call their partners unreasonable when they have marital issues. Whenever they don't succeed as parents, they will see as it's their kids's fault for being selfish.
An excuse for a glass is to blame on everything and everyone.The prevalent saying from them will be that they have been pushed into drinking by their job and family problems, even when they have no intention of drinking.
The sense of entitlement expressed by alcoholics is often the weird type. They explain that having a very hard/nerve-racking/challenging life entitles them to behave in actions that are childish, reckless, and self-centered. Everything has to pay them back for something according to their attitude. The feeling that life has not been fair to them, and that of self-pity, are some of the attributes of active alcoholics. When they begin demanding more from the world, they also start expecting less from themselves.
The expression "Screw it" is the fastest path alcoholics elect for self-demolition. The meaning is that they can go ahead and drink since everything is already damaged. The fact that "It" is about "Me" is one thing we try to instill in those that have accepted to quit drinking. This is visible in, "It's not worth it." The alcoholics make conscious efforts to deny the facts, even when they are aware of them all. They pretend and demand that all is well and try to convince those close to them into buying the fantasy. Although there won't be much meaning left in their lives, they'll still want to put up an appearance that everything is as it should be. This is perfectly expressed in Pink's song, "Family Portrait." "In our family portrait we look pretty happy.
We look pretty normal '"
Alcoholics are chief schemers. After they became addicts they began showing incredible abilities as real performers. These are the people who can sell ice to Eskimos. They will have an argument with you as they wish to leave and they will make you believe it's your mistake. They manifest a bit or no liability at all. They might have had principles before their addiction begun, however it will be away from their lives since they spiral. There is frequently one exception to this principle for every alcoholic - one thing they do very well and it will mainly be their singular source of self esteem. We have contacts with numerous alcoholics who have incredible work ethics because being a good worker is one thing they know they are good at - well, they will say that and begin drinking.
The disease of alcoholism will gradually strip everything away from the individual We have been requested too many times if alcoholism is really a illness or an option. The fact is that it is both. The fact that alcoholism can hide itself from others and also from the carrier is what makes it a unique disease. Even when afflicted with this disease, there is an aspect of choice that is not there in other diseases. The alcoholic can reduce anytime and many do. Most times, in the bid to show those around them that they are not addicted, the addicts will stop drinking for some time, and will also get back to drinking after some time, in the bid to punish them.
Becoming sober alone is not enough indication of total recovery from alcohol. Recovery from alcohol addiction includes modifying each aspect of someone's life. People are referred to as "dry drunk" when they stop drinking alone, and it means that they just stopped drinking, but the sickness of alcoholism is still there, and only a few can maintain this stoppage for a longer period. In my specialized point of view, actual recovery is just made probable by the program of Alcoholics Anonymous. The benefit of the AA program cannot be overemphasized and they could be improved with several innovations. Help from relatives and pals are what people in therapy need. But severally have I come across friends and relatives who unknowingly are aiding (shelving the alcoholics from the dangers of their problems) the addicts, and this deepens the addiction in them.